The loss of a child is a loss like no other and often misunderstood by those who haven’t been through it. As bereaved parents will know, they experience grief and loneliness, even their ‘good’ days. Here are some things to consider when supporting those going through child loss.
No matter how many years it may have been since the loss, every parent will spend each holiday imagining what may have been. For example, what gifts would their child have wanted? How would the annual family photo have looked that year? Would they have brought a partner home with them? While the holidays are still enjoyable, there will always be an element of wondering as a result of their loss.
The unconditional love they have for their child will never go away.
Similarly, they want to be able to speak of their deceased child as naturally as other parents speak of their living children. Never silence a bereaved parent if they mention their loss, even if it may make you uncomfortable because speaking of those we have lost is a powerful way of keeping their memory alive.
No matter the circumstances, there is no greater bond than the connection between parents who have suffered a loss. It’s a pain that lasts a lifetime, and sharing it with those that truly understand can lessen that burden.
Our Advocates understand the struggles associated with the loss of a child and are here to talk about it at any time of need. If you know someone dealing with the loss of a child, and maybe saying “I need to talk to someone,” please share this resource with them.
Wishing you The Gift of empathy,